Couples Coaching

Couples Coaching

Not in a relationship yet?  Come in and we can talk about
Dating Coaching.  Find ways to move past fear, pick the right
partner, ask the right questions and figure out if you are
following old habits or if it's real love this time!

For those already in a relationship, learning how to speak each other's language will be one of the most important things you do. In Couples Coaching that is one of the many things that we will accomplish!

Couples Coaching is one of the most interesting and emotionally delicate kinds of Coaching that there is.  It takes and incredible amount of love and dedication by both partners for success to be achieved, but it is very possible.

Relationships are so tricky to begin with.  Often the biggest problem is that too  much time has lapsed with the relationship's foundation compromised.  The best time to work on a relationship and communication is BEFORE there is a real problem.  But that is so difficult.  If our partner is hurting our feelings or acting in a way that makes us angry or sad we often say to ourselves, "well, it's not that big of a deal and I don't want to stir up trouble".  But trouble is already stirred up.  Not dealing with things as they arise is only putting off the inevitable conversation and the longer you wait, the harder it is.  Then one day you find yourself sad, dissatisfied and wondering how you got there.  Unhappy and feeling like it's too late.  The love is gone and another relationship has failed.  It doesn't have to be that way! 

The first thing that needs to happen is you need to know who you are and what you want in a mate.  We have to know where are boundaries are and be ready to hold them.  If you don't want to be with a smoker because you want a healthy mate, then you stick to that.  If you have addiction in your past and that will not work for you, then no matter how cute he or she is, it is a no go.  Setting boundaries is easy.  Holding them is the hard part.  You don't have to be identical and he or she doesn't have to be perfect (and will likely not be).  You do have to be able to be honest with yourself and your partner from the beginning about who you are and what your ok with.  You have to be willing to let go of someone you are falling for if you have to break your rules or lose yourself to be with them.

Remember, you are two different people, often trying to coexist in home.  The way we are raised is often so different.  How many siblings we had. Our relationship with each sibling.  Were we an only child?  How did our parents treat us?  Were our parents divorced?  Was there alcoholism in the home? Drug abuse? Physical abuse? Sexual abuse? Did we have a weight issue?  Too skinny? Too heavy?  Were we popular or an outcast in school?  What are are sensitivities?  Having this information about your partner will bring you closer together and greatly reduce misunderstanding and accidental button pushing.

respect each other
knowing how to listen and really understand 
being honest
be kind 

These are the keys to a mature, compassionate, loving and lasting relationship.  

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